There is a common thread with the females in the military and this is something that I have personal experience with as someone who has served. We are all called fresh meat once we get on the ship, we call have to deal with male military members who believe that they can cross our personal boundaries and get away with it (because they can) and that we can’t trust the male members we serve with who are suppose to be our brothers.
On my friends list fairly recently a few of the people on my friends list mostly old Navy contacts and some from my hometown (So, it’s no surprise) have been criticizing toxic masculinity. The general consensus is that they feel like it’s an attack on men, which is very untrue of course, and anyone who can read a definition would be able to easily understand that. These are all people that I have unfollowed on facebook because I don’t need the stress, ignorance, or that in my life, so for a month or two I haven’t seen those post in my feed, hallelujah. The bigs critics are those who don’t even know what it is and to be honest I just don’t get it.
I think one of the worst things about having a friendly personality is that people for some reason equal friendliness to flirting. This happened a lot when I worked at the convenience store, and the sad part I was literally paid to be nice to people, and it’s against the rules to flirt anyway. For some reason, a lot of people think it’s because the world is an unfriendly place and that being nice is somehow rare, and that is an excuse that people use, and I don’t think that is true. A lot of people are nice in this world and it’s not rare, this also makes it sound like women are only nice to men that they are attracted to, which to me is a really gross statement.
Every time you hear someone talk about feminism or equality in any form then you hear someone normally a white guy mention misandry, and it’s always someone who doesn’t know what being a woman, racial issues, or what intersectional feminism actually means, and they always hate women and POC. In theory, misandry means the hate of men, but yet in the real world, it doesn’t exist. This is why.
I am more than my womb or the children that society thinks that I should be having. My lack of parenthood doesn’t make me less of a woman. I am not any less fulfilled than I would if I had children, in fact I would be less fulfilled. There is no meter on accomplishment, fulfillment, success, hard work, or tiredness. Or that having kids makes that somehow make all these things mean more or less, it means the same. Just like it was my choice to not have children, it was a parent’s choice to have children. So, I am not any less anything because of that, if someone feels that way then that is on them. I respect good parents but those also aren’t the ones insulting me when I say I am tried for working hard either.
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