These are two things that I’ve talked about before while I never addressed call-out culture by name I have talked about it. Mostly by doing it, and racist family. I live in the south so a lot of my family is racist and I mean that they are on purpose, they choose to be and they enjoy it. Even if they don’t see it as racism, it obviously is to anyone with a brain. Call-out culture aligns a lot with how I and a few family members (and friends who allow racism/sexism/etc on their post) deal with these family members which is why I linked them together in this blog post. Also, to be clear these family members are also sexist, red pill, trump fangirls/boys, hate women (even if they are one), hates anything not traditional, anti-trans, anti-environment, and while they claim to be pro-troops they hate them if they challenge their core beliefs.

This isn’t going to be a regular blog post but it will be an update post. I have been doing a lot of work on the site behind the scene, and most of it is probably not going to be things that you even notice. Some of it is noticeable like what I have done on the index page. I’ve been mostly doing fandom related things, like I did Harmony & Co’s Halloween One-Shot Competition called Something Wicked This Way Comes, I did Hermione Haven’s Halloweek, and Hermione’s Nook Manipulation Challenge. Now, I am still working on a one-shot, Hermione & Co’s Advent Calendar as well as Hermione Haven’s Advent Calendar.

This post is a day late because I didn’t feel good today, but here it is. Happy Thanksgiving for those who celebrate it, I really don’t. Not only does the holiday have a racist and problematic history, how many turkeys die for this day that doesn’t need to? Too many. Not only that but I don’t visit most of my family anymore, I would rather not be around racist, sexist, bad people to be honest.

I am more than my womb or the children that society thinks that I should be having. My lack of parenthood doesn’t make me less of a woman. I am not any less fulfilled than I would if I had children, in fact I would be less fulfilled. There is no meter on accomplishment, fulfillment, success, hard work, or tiredness. Or that having kids makes that somehow make all these things mean more or less, it means the same. Just like it was my choice to not have children, it was a parent’s choice to have children. So, I am not any less anything because of that, if someone feels that way then that is on them. I respect good parents but those also aren’t the ones insulting me when I say I am tried for working hard either.

I think if your a female and not in a relationship people always push you why not, oh the right guy is around the corner as if I care. I don’t need a guy or anyone else to define who I am, and I don’t need a man to make me feel whole or complete. Everyone always assumes that if especially a woman is single, that it must be because either A there is something wrong with her, B She isn’t dateable, or C that she is waiting or pine for the right guy. Which literally are bullshit reasons, maybe we don’t want some stab of fat attached to us where we have to be responsible for some man-child, or it could be because we don’t need to have some random guy to be happy because we are happy on our own. I like to be alone, I like not having to check and be dependant on someone else to live my own best life.