One of the biggest things people talk about during the new years is their resolutions and what their goals are going into the new years. Then a month later most people give up on them. I even seen friends on Facebook say they can’t wait until the new people in the gym give up on their resolutions so that the gym won’t be packed, and others have already given up on their goals. This is one of the reasons I don’t talk about my goals and resolutions with friends or family, and I certainly don’t go gung ho on them.
I think a lot of people have a very unreasonable and unrealistic goal, and when they can’t or figure out they won’t hit it they give when they should really restructure them. My last two years I have had goals that were more about my personal journey with my health than about an actual resolution or goal, and it was more about me than about showing the world. At the end of the day, individuals should look at their resolutions as personal goals. I think the funniest part about mine was that I didn’t think of them as New Years Resolutions, and one started before the new years, and one started after.
Over two years ago I started the journey to becoming a vegan, which is something that means so much to me now, and I obviously don’t like talking to that with friends and family who hate anything that goes against the normal, especially since hunting is big in my family. So, I am not for hunting I must somehow hate them is how they think. I might hate them but hunting isn’t the reason. The cognitive dissonance is pretty big here if they feel guilt just by me existing. So, you can see that be talking about this is not proactive with my current friends and family. I’ve only talked about it with people in my real life that aren’t judgemental assholes.
Last year I started something called the potato reset it was just a month long thing that I never ended up finishing because I quit when my nephew died. However part of the reset was that you could only drink water, tea, and coffee without plant milk/sugar, it’s a vegan thing, but a lot of people who do it aren’t vegans. It did say that they allowed a small amount each of plant milk, but I have no self-control so I opted out. I did have to give up diet coke for the reset, which I was able to finally do and not pick it back up after the reset. It’s been over a year since I’ve drank diet coke too.
I slowly transitioned into veganism, it was important for me, and it was important for a lot of the issues that I had with food because of my childhood. To gloss over the issue, my old narcissist stepmother used food to hurt my twin and me, and after that, there was a lot of time where we didn’t know where our next meals were coming from because of money and food insecurity. These reasons have literally affected my approach to food for a very long time. My point of this is that while it was a big thing to do I did it in small steps. And really giving up diet coke was a small thing, but it was also something I use to drink multiple times a day.
When making your resolutions make small steps and small goals, make goals that are reachable but still something you can work too. Realize that it won’t happen right away. If your weight loss is your goal, then knowing that quick weight loss is unrealistic, and a scam. Also changing your whole lifestyle is hard, and you don’t have to change it all at once, making small steps here will make it easy for you to succeed and make your lifestyle and weight loss more sustainable. It’s been proven the quicker you lose weight and especially on fad diets (i.e. keto, atkins, etc) than your more likely to gain it all back plus more, the slower you lose weight the more likely you are to keep it off. Also, a lot people want to go to the gym and change their diet at the same time, which can be done, but It’s can be better for some people to start one and then another.
My point is you can start small and when you complete one goal, to increase that goal or start another. You don’t even have to make a new goal for your New Years Resolutions it can be a continuation of another or something you decided after a new years. Make this work for you 🙂