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When I was under unfortunately I had a stepmother whom my dad eventually divorced before my twin and I hit middle school. She and her children were like a parallel of Cinderella’s stepmother and daughters. The sad part of it all is she pretended to be nice so that my dad would like her, and once they were married her real face was revealed. It always seems to be a lot after marriages and death that brings out the truth of who people really are.

I think the sad part is we all really liked her at first but I had always had a weird feeling that I can’t explain that told me that something wasn’t right. However, as a child in kindergarten, I didn’t know what it meant, so I ignored it. Even if I didn’t there is nothing I could have don’t at that age especially without proof. No one would have listened to a child anyways, not in the south, and not in the early to late 1990s when I was five to eleven which is when all this happened.

It first started out with small things like her favoring her children and always buying only them toys and things with my dad’s money because she never could get a job, she was a drunk that dropped out of middle school. Now, there is nothing wrong with a mother loving her children, but if my dad would have got my sister and me anything she would have taken it away until he got her children things. She used us to get to our dad, then discarded us when she was done. After the fact my dad said that he thought that she was favoring her children, but she would lie about it and he didn’t really have proof.

I know as an adult and a child I never liked ham, it was gross and so when she found out she would purposely make it as my school lunch because she liked to hurt me. So, when I refused to, she would threaten me, force me to, or physically punish me. Then she would lie and say this was food my dad wanted me to eat, and that if I did she would have him punish me, and would say she would tell him about this and I would get in trouble. I found out that my dad when she complained told her that she wouldn’t have to bitch about it if she fed me food I like that she wouldn’t have to complain to him so much. So, her telling me that she was going to tell my dad to get me into trouble was meaningless, but I didn’t know that.

I remember when I was at school she would always pack lunch for my sister and me so that she could pretend to be a homemaker even though making a shitty sandwich is not hard as she thought it was, but she couldn’t read so. I had to go to school and lunch and every time I would try and hide that I was throwing the sandwich away when the teacher taught me doing it. I know know that I didn’t need to explain myself to her, or justify why, it was my food to do with what I pleased, but sadly I didn’t realize that at the time. So, she told me she would tell my stepmom, and I begged her not to, and I tried to explain why I did it, but she didn’t know care or care about me. So, she told the stepmom and didn’t care about what it did to me.

My mom is and was very beautiful and she was extremely jealous of her, so she did things that would hurt all three of us, my mom, my twin, and I. She would try to tell everyone that my sister and I was her daughters and force us to call her mom because she needed the validation. Once, when my mom trimmed my twin and my hair, she got mad and chopped all of our hair of, because she wanted to hurt my mom, and make us feel ugly. My sister and I loved our hair and she knew that, and we told her she didn’t want her to do that, but she did it anyway. I think this was another thing she lied to my dad about but I have trouble talking about a lot of this unless someone brings it up first.

When my twin and I got sick, she would accuse us of lying about it, and so even when my dad would take us to the doctor and we would get medicine for whatever sickness we had, she would tell us to stop faking it, and grab our faces and squeeze hard. I remember when we got the medicine too because she refused to give it to us, and we never told our dad because I guess it didn’t occur to us that we could. To this day I don’t know what she did with the medicine that was meant for us. It makes me think she might have drank it for its alcohol content.

Most of what she did was the same things repeated as she would always feed us the food we didn’t like, and always do things to hurt all my mom, my sister, and me. She didn’t allow us to leave our rooms, and we could hang out in the living room like her children were allowed. She told our dad that we wanted to be locked up in our room. Her children were a lot older than us. We were allow to get water and if we had to use the bathroom, we had to say out of sight, and be fast about it.

One weekend my sister and I went to see our mom, she packed us a big lunch of things that we liked, because my mom knew what my stepmom did because we told her, but she tried to get us to tell our dad because she knew he wouldn’t stand for it, but the problem with that is we thought that he had already known and we just didn’t understand. I knew I didn’t like what she did but didn’t know that it was wrong of it to happen, so I never thought to tell anyone.

So, when we went home on mom after school, the stepmom got mad and jealous because my mom knew how to cook, so she threw all that food away out of spite. So, when my mom found out she asked her why, and at the time my little sister was a baby and in my mom’s arms. The stepmom got mad about it and tried to attack my mom, that is when we were told to go outside. Then a few minutes later my mom, my sisters and I all when to my moms. I remember heading my stepmom be herself, and I remember her yelling, and I remember there was never a front window broken. I know that for a fact. My mom told my sister and me what happened, the truth, and it aligns exactly with how I and my twin events. She tried to hit my baby sister and hit my mom, then tried to hold on to her, so my mom pushed her off and we left. My step mom and my step brother lied about what happened to the cops and my step threw her self through the front window so she could blame my mom.

No one questioned, no one asked us what really happened, they just choose to believe a liar! My mom was falsely arrested when my stepmom should have been when she abused a baby and my mom. We were forced home with that liar, we both asked why the front window was broken they said it was because of my mom when we tried to say that the window was not broken when we left no one would listen to us. It still upset me to this day, that she was about to fool everyone, and frame my mom.

Her daughter moved out of the house because her mom caused problems for her and her best friend. Her son remanded but he was a lot like his mother, abused, hateful, and evil. He use to push me down stairs, and once he tried to set me on fire. He was generally just not a nice person to my twin and or me. Whatever mental and personality disorder his mother had so did he.

Once, my sister and I got sick, and we generally got sick around the same time. Though, I’m not sure if this was more than the stepmom’s bad cooking. We both ended up throwing up the food because she forced us to eat early because she didn’t allow us to come out of our rooms, and did want us around our dad. Like now it is obvious why because he would know that something was wrong but of course we didn’t know that. So, she forced us to our room and said that was what we got for making ourselves throw up, and faking being sick. No more dinner for us.

Since she forced us to say in our room, we did. So, one day her parents had come over to visit, and I always thought that it was weird that this was the only time that her parents came around, and she punished us because we didn’t come out to meet her parents after tells us we weren’t allowed to leave the room.

One morning after I woke up to get to go to school, I remember everyone on my body was hurting so much that I started to cry, so my stepmom grabbed my face and told me that she was going to get my dad so that he could see what a faker I was. My dad, of course, took me to the doctor and then to the hospital because I had a disease. My mom always told me that it was because my stepmom kept us sick is why I got that disease, and for the longest time I didn’t know that she was right. My stepmom’s abuse led me to getting a disease that could have killed me, and at the time they only have seen seven cases a year in which most die or are paralyzed. I got extremely lucky and one of the things that saved me was the steroids that made my body strong again and made me live.

I remember being in the hospital, and I felt so guilty because I was leaving my twin with the stepmom and brother. I felt like I let her down because I knew because stepmom couldn’t get to me that my sister would get it worst.

The day that everything came into play, my stepmom had left for some reason, I think the store, and I walked out and asked for water to my dad, and my dad said I looked afraid to ask. So, that was when he knew for sure that something was wrong. Since at this point he was only keeping her around because he thought we liked her, and he did like or love her anymore. It was more convenience than anything. I actually don’t remember asking for water, my dad and sister do, but he replied that I never had to ask for anything in my own house. Which was the problem it didn’t feel like my house when she and her son was there.

This part of the day, I remember, it was actually night, my dad came into my twin and mine room to say goodnight. He asked us what we thought of her, and we told him that we were afraid of her, then they got divorced.

I remember telling people a little bit about her and people always ask why we never said anything sooner, and they didn’t understand how afraid of her and her son we were.

Tiffany

I am a millennial female and proud of it! From the state that's called the armpit of the south and the sunshine state. I'm a wannabe writer and artist, who likes blogging, and anything DYI. Is fandom trash and lives to ship fictional characters together. Favorite fruit is lemon, loves veggie sushi, and I am always carb loading.

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Comments (5) »

Lovely - May 9, 2019 @ 6:00 am

Sorry to hear this hun, and for you to have experienced it! So glad to hear you dad divorced her!

xoxo
Lovely
http://www.mynameislovely.com

glowsteady - May 9, 2019 @ 7:07 pm

Sorry to hear this, glad she’s no longer in your life!! x

Sophie

ThatAutisticFitChick - May 10, 2019 @ 4:14 am

I’m sorry that you went through this. People saying “you should have said something, you should have left sooner” are one of my biggest bugbears because as a child you often don’t know that what you are experiencing isn’t normal, or that it’s abuse and you’re scared and you believe the adult/s!
I hope that you made a full recovery from your illness that you sustained as well <3

Alaina - May 10, 2019 @ 9:36 pm

This is such an awful thing to hear.. Breaks my heart that you and your siblings had to endure this, particularly as children.

I’m sure it made you wiser, as it was first hand experience that the world is not always kind. It makes me happy that despite this you’re such an amazing person!!

I hope you are well this mothers day and get to spend it with your one and only, wonderful mom!!

Nancy - May 10, 2019 @ 10:15 pm

It is so upsetting when step-parents treat their step-children unfairly. At the end of the day, the relationship isn’t just their significant other. They have to consider any family members beyond that person. It is disgusting when adults go out of their way to make children uncomfortable. I am glad the truth got out eventually and that your father did the right thing.

Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

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